Divide all participants in 2 groups: men and women

1. Ask both groups to imagine themselves on the street now, walking around in the room quietly. “Men group” like men would do, “women group” like women would do.
2. All participants are supposed to pay attention to their bodies and their movement. They’re also supposed to watch the other “men” and “women” about their movement
3. Call out a change of walking and movement speed (fast, very slow etc.) in between.
4. Let both groups change roles after 2 minutes.
5. Make them change roles again, ask them to line up into their groups and encourage them to face each other (about 3m distance between them).
6. Now the coach is going to tell some words and the participants need to enact those without saying anything. “Women group” acts like women, “men group” acts like men.
7. Make everybody close their eyes.
8. Then one by one call out these words and let the groups enact them (with their eyes closed) before calling out the next word: Beauty, Strength, Anger, Athletic, Sexuality, Power, Confidence.
9. After one round is done, the groups change their roles. Now everybody enacts in their role with eyes open and the same words. Women start enacting the word, men are 2nd.

Notes: Bring all participants after the exercise together and create a comfortable situation with everybody sitting in a circle and being able to see each other. Create a platform for questions and an atmosphere of intimate sharing about sex and sexuality.

Take the flipcharts from the brainstorming at the beginning and start the discussion round.

• Everybody is supposed to be included into the discussion! Make sure to involve everybody and try to ask shy and more quiet participants directly. Empower the girls not to be shy and to speak openly.
• Specific questions for reflection and discussion round:
  • What have you noticed about the movement as women/men at the beginning? Similarities/differences?
  • Did you pay attention to your body, how have you felt?
  • About acting the words, what was the easiest word to act as a woman/man?
  • What was the hardest word to act as a woman/man?
  • You saw the other group acting your role in the 2nd round with eyes open, what differences/similarities did occur?
  • About the acting in general, when did the men and women’s groups act out in similar ways?
  • When did they act out in different ways?
  • Why do you think there are differences in the way the male and female groups acted?
  • How do women/men show their sexuality in your community?
  • Why do they act different?
  • What are healthy/unhealthy ways to show sexuality?
  • How do you think a healthy way of sexual behaviour with a man looks and feels like?
  • Do women have sexual desires and feelings? Are they different from men’s desires? How do women express their desires?
  • Is it okay for women to talk about their desires and pleasure with their partners? Why or why not?
  • Is it okay in your community if a man has sexual relations with another woman if he is married? What about a married woman with another man?
  • What might be a risky sexual behaviour or a risky sexual relationship?
  • What could risky sexual behaviour cause?
  • Who knows what teenage pregnancy is?
  • What does it mean for your life to become a teenage mother? How would it affect your life?
  • What else could be a cause of risky sexual behaviour?
• Prepare a little presentation about HIV to educate participants about basic information: risks, causes, consequences and the meaning of an infection for your life. Empower the girls to ask questions.

Notes: This is just a selection of possible questions that could help to lead a discussion. It is important to react on the answers that are giving in the discussion round and to be able to adapt your targeted guideline to individual experiences and perceptions.